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Break Through by Tim Clinton and Pat Springle

Break Through by Tim Clinton and Pat Springle deals with the hazardous relationship called “enmeshment” and explains how we can overcome the bondage it brings into our lives. Often I meet people who struggle with the feeling of being controlled or manipulated by others and feel powerless to make changes in order to escape the self imposed trap of enmeshment. The authors first explain how we allow such a bondage into our lives, and then show us how to deal with it – giving us insight into why we do the things we do.

Do we really know what love is? Do we have to always be the door mat while others walk all over us? How do I know when to say, “No.”? Does God require us to sit still while others use and abuse us? Is it a wife’s obligation to follow and endure no matter what? How is it that some people seem to have healthy relationships while others appear to gravitate toward disaster? When does true love give in? When does true love push back? Break Through shows us how to identify real love and set effective limits so that both parties enjoy a healthy, edifying relationship.  

Through many real life stories we can learn how to identify those who strive to please, rescue, fix, or control others, learn how to deal with them, and what we can do to change if we see such attributes in ourselves. As always, our perspective is key, and sometimes can be skewed based on our past experiences. Our relationship with our parents, teachers, friends, etc. can have a huge impact on us, and if we’re not careful, can set us on a self-destructive course that can take years to identify and correct. This book offers us an occasion to reflect, identify, and self examine our motives and choices. We’ve all been told many times that perfect love casts out fear, but what does that mean on a practical basis? Read this book to find out.

Here is a sample chapter: break_through_chapter1

Click here for a video from the author.

This book was given to me free by Handlebar Publishing in exchange for an honest review. It is available at Amazon and Barnes and Noble.


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One Response

  1. Great review. This book is a game-changer for those who need help setting boundaries in their life. Some of us try too hard to control others; others of us allow ourselves to be manipulated, even bullied. This book addresses both these dysfunctions but offers real life examples of how to change. There’s a helpful article on how to break free of relational enmeshment, based on the insights of the book, at http://www.scribd.com/4granted/d/96868738-Break-Free-of-Relational-Enmeshment

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